Rejection sensitive dysphoria is wild. Someone will be like “hey just so you know the thing you did was a little bit loud/uncomfortable/insensitive but it’s ok I know you didn’t mean it” and my brain will instantly translate “you should be shot”
“why do you talk so loud? you’re always yelling”. i swear to god every time i hear that i want to just run off and hang myself. it is THE WORST
god remember when the pokemon anime was so desperate to keep up ash’s losing streak that they made some random dude bust out two fucking legendaries at the sinnoh league, raising a shit ton of questions all just to keep ash from winning anything
the answer to ‘guys won’t hug their friends cos they don’t wanna seem gay’ isn’t ‘remove the stigma by declaring it Acceptably Straight Behaviour’
it’s ‘get straight people to give up the homophobia that makes them treat gay people with such repulsion that they’ve built an entire culture around the violent disavowal of anything even tangentially related to gay people’
getting homophobic straight dudes to express affection for one another while leaving intact the homophobia that made them avoid it doesn’t solve the core issue
which is that straight dudes are such violent homophobes that they will literally cut themselves off from necessary emotional support in order to more effectively identify and isolate/attack gay men
the problem here isn’t just that straight guys don’t get enough hugs
Is your landlord a piece of shit and refusing to fix stuff around your place? If you’re living in the US, most cities have a section on their website for building code enforcement. Find the contact information for the department and tell them what’s happening. Make bureaucracy work for you! The government will contact your landlord and if they don’t comply they will be fined! The threat of losing money is a mighty motivator and they’ll most likely get their shit together within a day or two.
My ceiling was leaking for two weeks without me hearing anything from management besides “we’ll get to it”. Literally the DAY after I emailed the code enforcement department, management came by with a contractor to give me estimates on when my roof would be fixed. This shit works y’all
I don’t normally post or reblog about this on my Tumblr, but this is important. I tried this and it made our landlord so mad that they accused us of not letting them in to fix the apartment, told code enforcement these lies, and threatened to evict us. If you do this, make sure you document EVERYTHING.
